A V O I D ✘
1.Screaming at the child. ✘
2.Embarrassing the child. ✘
3.Shaming the child. ✘
4.Labeling the child. ✘
5.Threatening the child. ✘
6.Hitting the child. ✘
7.Hurting the child in any way. ✘
8.Indulging the child.✘
9.Reinforcing inappropriate behavior by giving in to his/her outbursts. ✘
DO ✔
1.Accept the child as a valuable human being.✔
2.Accentuate his/her strengths.✔
3.Acknowledge appropriate behavior.✔
4.Provide a safe, respectful environment with clear limits.✔
5.Follow through with meaningful consequences for aggressive acts.✔
6.Provide a predictable day with opportunities for the child to make choices.✔
7.Model kindness, fairness, firmness, and consistency.✔
8.Watch the child carefully noting the antecedents to hostile behavior. ✔
9.Anticipate angry outbursts and arrange activities to reduce them.✔
10.Understand that anger is often a reaction to feeling misunderstood, unloved, hurt or afraid.✔
11.Assist the child in learning and using a vocabulary of feeling words.✔
12.Listen and mirror the feelings he/she expresses.
Facilitate communication between the child and others.✔
13.Teach the child that anger is a natural emotion that everyone has.✔
14.Help the child understand that it is okay to feel angry, but that it is not okay to hurt others.✔
15.Provide a safe place for the child to calm him/herself.✔
16.Teach the child ways to cope with angry impulses: stop and think, problem solve, sit alone, breathe deeply, tense body and relax, use play dough, count, draw, exercise, rest or read. ✔
17.Help the child meet his/her psychological needs: to feel loved, accepted, secure, recognized, and a part of a group. ✔